skip to main |
skip to sidebar
advertisement
advertisement
Eating Disorder Hope Blog
The Eating Disorder Hope Blog provides information, resources and hope to eating disorder sufferers, their loved ones & treatment providers. Find recovery tools, articles library, virtual library, treatment provider options and events for individuals struggling with bulimia, anorexia and binge-eating disorders. Follow us and stay informed and motivated to recover!
Check out our website at: http://www.EatingDisorderHope.com
Timberline Knolls
advertisement
Rogers Memorial Hospital
Remuda Ranch
advertisement
Blogs of Interest
Website Resources
Blog Archive
Legal Notice:
The content of this and other sections of the Eating Disorder Hope web site and blogs are intended only for broad, general information, and should not replace one-on-one therapy with a trained professional. As with all health-related issues, please refer to your personal physician, dietician, counselor or therapist for a full evaluation and to determine the best course of treatment. Eating Disorder Hope specifically disclaims liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, that may be incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, in the use or application of any contents of this web site.
Blog and Social Media Moderator Policy
By Eating Disorder Hope Staff
Authority
Our blog is moderated occasionally and posteriorly. Moderators are volunteers, interns and independent contractors. Internet users posting comments on this blog should not be considered as health professionals.
Complementarity
Comments posted on this Blog should be designed to support, not replace, the relationship that exists between a patient/site visitor and his/her existing physician.
Confidentiality
We remind you that everyone can read and use your comments. You do not have the possibility to erase your own comments.
Comments
Internet users commenting on my blog must behave with respect and honesty at all times.
Internet users may not post any commercial/advertising comment.
Internet users commenting on my blog must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge. We invite you to provide resources (references, links, ...) on health/medical claims when possible and relevant.
Moderators Reserve the right to erase, without notification, any comment they would judge inappropriate.
Last modification date : [11/21/2011]
(source: Health On The Net Foundation @ http://www.hon.ch/HONcode/Webmasters/Guidelines/charte_blog_modele.html)
3 comments:
Oh yes.. the good old holiday time.. You know, this particular subject has taken me a few years to accomplish but I have found several things that have worked for me. I used to get so stressed out and overwhelmed at my family's homes and or gatherings. I finally figured out that the biggest problem was that I was NEVER putting myself OR my THOUGHTS/ FEELINGS first.
I have a totally different perspective on this issue today. I finally had to remove myself from the situation if things got to be too much. I will even now to this day sometimes just leave and go walk the dog. (Even if its not my dog.) I sometimes need a bit of fresh air. Our families are wonderful and they mean well but sometimes they can be inconsiderate of others' feelings.
The first few times just excusing myself was tough. Now after a few years my family knows that I will put myself first. Yes, I DO care for others but when things overwhelm me I speak up for myself. Before, I would just bottle everything up inside and be on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I REFUSE to torture myself anymore. I have closed that chapter of my book in life.
I will also reward myself for being able to handle certain situations. It is small things too. Such as maybe renting a favorite old time movie, giving myself a pedicure, buying my favorite lotion, etc. You might all find this comical but even to this day I carry with me (when going to relatives and inlaws homes) sticks of candles and a placemat. If mealtime gets too stressful I will remove myself from the situation and have a nice candlelight dinner outside or in the other room.
I usually have a couple of people even join me that feel the same way. I have learned throughout my recovery process that putting myself first instead of last (like before) has been a big stepping stone for me. I think the biggest thing is giving myself permission to be different than my family and (yes this was a huge obstacle for me) but it worked!! I love my family more than anything else in the world but I do excuse myself from the given situation if it gets to be too much.
I have even carried a deck of cards with me and I take them out and go in the other room if I find myself slipping into a detour. It works believe it or not. My family is more accepting of me now than they have ever been in my WHOLE life and respect me for my feelings and or actions. We are all unique individuals and I find its extremely important (whether families understand it or not), to nurture ourselves with all the tender and loving care we can possibly give ourselves..
Holidays are very hard for me, I feel more alone and sad than any other time of year. I don't want to go home, because of all the emotions that stur up in me. I love my family and am thankful for them, but it is still hard for me. I have not yet found a way to get through Christmas without pain and sadness, but it does get slightly easier each year. I am trying to hang out with friends and find love through others. I also get through by loving others and caring for those who don't have anything.
Christmas day is tough, I try and talk to some of my friends on Christmas, even if it is asking them what they got for Christmas.
Most importantly...remembering the reason for the season...that brings joy to my life...
Merry Christmas everyone
thax for your prayers. i am so happy that you found God, he is a very important part in recovery. let the lord be your light and follow him to your future.
Post a Comment