Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Important Notice to All Bloggers -- Please Read.

Hello Ladies,

Thank you for your insightful posts, honesty and obvious hard work on recovery!

Please be careful to be gentle with each other. It is very easy for misunderstanding to occur on blogs, emails, etc. since we cannot hear the tone of voice, see the facial expressions or body language.

Try to stay focused on what is going on with you, not others. Offer support, but please direct concerns to the individual directly(if their email is provided) or to me as the Blog moderator:

Most of the blogs are wonderfully encouraging and helpful. Thank you for helping to create a safe and healing place on this blog.


Jacquelyn Ekern


JulieBird said...

Sorry I missed you guys at group. I hope it went well and everyone's taking care of themselves! I hope to get off early enough to come next wk...or wait next wk is Thanksgiving wk, may not even have a meeting...
Things are going ok for me. It's hard not to fall into the perfectionism trap. (I mess up once, might as well scrap the whole day). But just taking one day at a time.

Jamie said...

Uh Oh! I hope I haven't said anything to offend anyone. You are all such dear people in my life that the last thing I want to do is hurt someone's feelings. Please email me if I have done anything offensive.
-I would love to know my faults so that I am able to correct them in the future.
Take care everyone!!! :)

Jeanette said...

I got up this morning and watched the sunrise. If felt so wonderful just to sit and be still (and shiver because only silly people watch the sunrise when it is freezing outside). I just wanted to have a clear head when I got to work this morning. It felt so good to just be....not to have to always be doing. I once heard someone say that we are suppose to be human beings not human doers. I really agree with that. It felt so good to be in the moment and be calm and to know that I am okay and everything is going to be okay. I would not let my head race and think of everything that is on my plate or what I had to do today....but instead I just practiced sitting there. It was awesome. Just thought I might share that.

Anonymous said...

Sounds awesome Jeanette! There is something so amazing and spiritual about stopping to enjoy the wonders of nature. I am in the middle of a huge "storm" with my recovery struggles and now with my inlaws. I really enjoyed reading your blog....very uplifting! Catherine just came in asking when I'm going to make breakfast....
Have a Happy Friday!

Jeanette said...


You are such an amazingly strong person and soooooooo talented. Remember you are worth recovery and worth the struggle. You know that old saying (that I use to hate and still do somedays) "that which does not kill us will make us stronger." Well, I have actually have found that to be true. I know that through this struggle I have become a stronger person and I think more confident of a person too. I know that if I can overcome some of these obstacles....then I can do some of the smaller stuff I use to think I could not do. Ok....I know that sometimes all of this sounds very Pollyanna-ish.....but I have honestly found it to be true in my life. When the storm seems to strong or like you can not weather it....think of all those reasons you CAN weather it. You can weather it because you have already overcome so much. You can weather it because you have a supportive husband by your side and two wonderful children. You can weather it because you are highly intelligent and can use that for your benefit. You can weather it for whatever.....

I know the deal with your inlaws really stinks. What I would encourage you to do is always maintain your dignity (whatever that means in your situation). If you have your dignity then at the end of the night when you are reflecting on things then you know you did the right thing and what was in line with what you stand for as a person. If we loose our dignity or compromise our values then it is harder to live with ourselves and then all the guilt stuff comes in (not that it is already there....but it is harder to do positive self-talk when you know you have violated your ethics).

Ok...I promise to quit blogging.

Love ya,


Anonymous said...

Thanks Jeanette! Please don't promise to quit blogging and know that there is a lot of support here for you. Your insight meant a lot to me. I was able to hold my head high through round one and was fortunate to have therapy the following day to really process what had happened. Isn't your surgery tomorrow? Dallas or Ft.Worth? You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Although I am feeling overwhelmed right now, I am surprised at what I have been able to deal with. I have so much to be thankful for. Thanks for offering your support and encouragement. -L

Jeanette said...

Actually my surgery has been rescheduled. I have to follow a very strict meal plan before I can have the surgery. My body (or my heart) can not handle the sedation right now. So my goal for this next week is to eat like I am suppose to so that I can have surgery. I was talking with a friend and told her that if I could really commit to doing it for this week...then why would it just be a week committment if I know this is what my body needs. So.....I am going to try and commit this meal plan to a way of life.

I am so glad you were able to get through round one. That is awesome. Celebrate the small victories and before you know it you will have a huge victory to celebrate!!! You can do it!