Thursday, June 02, 2005

Pro Ana/Mia Sites....

What do you think about the pro ana sites? Are you aware of how frequently people recovering from eating disorders are still visiting these sites, and pulling them back in to the old thoughts and behaviors of eating disorder practices?

Why do you think someone might be pursuing recovery on one hand, and visiting sites such as: www.eatingdisorderhope.com and then visiting the pro ana(anorexia) or pro mia(bulimia) sites?

Thanks for your input!

21 comments:

Jamie said...
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Jamie said...

whoops! ^ that wasnt suppose to be removed!... well heres what that comment said:

Cult-Like Lure of 'Ana' Attracts Anorexics (article link below):

http://apnews.myway.com/article/20050530/D8ADKJKO1.html

hey! I came across this article on a pro-ana xanga. I don't know if any of you have already read it, but I thought that it was pretty interesting... I think that it is quite sad and unfortunate how much of a 'fad' all of this pro-ana/mia stuff is becoming... I guess that these pro-ed people don't really understand how devastating and detereorating this disease really is... they treat it like its a game when in reality it is very much so a serious, life-threatening disease... haha but I shouldn't be talking since I'm guilty of the pro-ana blogging also.(whoops! haha) still though, it upsets me how these sites are influencing more and more innocent people each day... I would love to see these sites shut down, but I guess that they are inevitable... how sad!... I feel sorry for all the innocent souls that are becoming victims of 'ana/mia/ed'... ::sigh:: ok! well hope that everyone is having a great day!
*~Jamie~*

Jamie said...

o, and by the way, I'm one of those people who are
"pursuing recovery on one hand, and visiting sites such as: www.eatingdisorderhope.com and then visiting the pro ana(anorexia) or pro mia(bulimia) sites"...
whoops! It's just that I'm scared of 'recovering' so I'm still an active pro-ana blogger, yet I guess that somewhere in the back of my mind I know that I should 'recover' or whatever... maybe... well, actually I don't know why I'm pro-recovery and yet resisting recovery at the same time... I guess I'm just sort of ambivilant about recovery... or maybe I'm just scared... I don't know... yeah, I guess I'm just scared...
I'm sorry that I'm wasting everyones time since I'm being so deffiant with the whole recovery process for me... but I still really appreciate everones efforts to try and help me... I'm just so fat-phobic... sorry!!!
*~Jamie~*

Jamie said...

here is a anorexic xanga that I came across:

http://www.xanga.com/hahahahahab_tch

this is one thing that she wrote that I really like and I agree with:




"An Explanation to my Ramblings

Why do I write so much? Why do I constantly ponder and turn and scream and cry? Two reasons really.

One being that...I am just trying to find my way out. Words are my small flares in this darkened life. You see, I was ok, I was just like anyone else, except, somewhere along the way, instead of following the road,I slipped into this tunnel. It took me far, far away from the light, down and down and down. Sometimes, in the darkness I come across other girls, other people who slipped as well. And we cling together in the darkness, and some of us...just can't hold on. But I know above us somewhere, people live along that road we all once followed, for however short a time...so I know this tunnel must start going up again somewhere. The words I write, day after day after day, are just my little flares of light that I throw around, trying to see in this darkness, trying to somehow find my way back out.

Secondly, I write in the hope that...someone, some 13 year old girl, or someone totally different, someone wandering, oblivious to the tunnel they may slip into...may read this and be saved in time. Are you that stereotype girl? Are you that stereotype 13 year old girl, dabbling in a little in pro-ana? Are you the one that proudly proclaims "anorexia is not a self-inflicted disease, it's a self-controlled lifestyle" then maybe you will read this, and see that I am more than 6 years into an eating disorder and I can tell you that anorexia is a disease, anorexia is an illness, anorexia is an addiction and anorexia will kill you.

Anorexia will isolate you. It will put a wall between you and everyone else. It will plunge you into a lonely world of darkness. And, though you may feel power now, though you may feel the high of living on air and water and caffeine. Later, all you will feel is pain. You will scream to be let out, you will scream for your eating disorder to cut it's grasp on you, and your screams will echo back into the emptiness of your little cell. The cell anorexia has built around you. And you will be alone. More alone than you can ever imagine.

You will be faced with the destruction you have inflicted upon your life, your family's life, your friends'lives - what friends you may, or may not still seem to have. And even if they are still there, they will be distanced, they will be strangers to you as you will be to them. You will be faced with the irreversable destruction you have inflicted upon your health, self and body. And finally, you will realize that anorexia is going to kill you. and that is when the pain really starts. because someday, you will realize that you don't want anorexia in your life, but that anorexia is your life, that you are chained and that anorexia has sucked every grain of power out of you. And that you are alone. Imprisoned in the hell you created for yourself. And this is when it really starts to hurt.

I know these words will have little impact, because right now you feel in control. Afterall, you are just going to lose a few more pounds and then everything is going to be Good....there is no point in me telling you otherwise, but maybe, maybe.....one of you, just one, will realize that life is more important, that "pro-ana" does not really exist "pro-ana" is simply the high that preceeds the fall, "pro-ana" is simply something created by that first feeling of power....and maybe just one person will stop. Stop before the fall."




- sorry I keep on posting comments. haha I just have alot of connections to the pro-ana/mia sites...

Anonymous said...

Interesting posts, Jamie! The xanga post that you referenced seems to be a very accurate depiction of what many of the pro-ana sites have posted...the despair and darkness of anorexia is frightening and so very real...I wonder what portion of that despair is due to malnutrition and the brain not operating clearly and appropriately? Does nutrition and an adequate and healthy weight restore a more balanced perspective in your view?
Jacquelyn

Megan said...

Hi guys! This is my first time doing this, so sorry if its not super saavy. I think these sites are totally bizarre. I got into them once when I was more into my disease but found them more depressing and suicide-inducing than anything else. I basically signed a pact with someone else in recovery to stop going to them, and that seemed very helpful. I'd offer the same advice to anyone struggling with visiting those sites as well. Thanks! Ciao bellas!

Anonymous said...

Hey Meg!
Great advice, signing a pact with someone who will hold you accountable is a great idea for support in stopping the seemingly addictive behavior of viewing proana sites...
I met a gal in Buffalo Gap, Texas, (population 463....:)....
she makes these beautiful hand made glass bead bracelets and designs each one uniquely...I was really impressed, bought one from her, and am talking with her about creating a "pro health, body acceptance and self love" bracelet that would be available on the Eating Disorder Hope website for people to order...I think it would be great for gals just coming out of treatment as a tangible reminder of what they are committed to and that they could wear it for comfort too....We are working out the details...but I think the bracelets will be available within a month....any thoughts on this idea of trying to start an oppositional trend than pro ana, and instead being "pro health, body acceptance and self love"?
Jacquelyn

Jamie said...

hello everyone! In response to Jacki(Jacquelyn is that how you spell your nickname? tehe!)
-yeah, alot of the anorexia 'despair' is of course most likely linked to malnutrition...but I feel even more depressed and in despair when I do eat...soooo...I just prefer to have the false security of starvation...it makes me feel more secure and less depressed...whoops! ugh o well!
on another note! -yeah! I would be all for the pro-health bracelets!! Thats a GREAT idea! How exciting!

yeah, I should just completely abstain from the pro-ana sites, but I just can't... I did an experimental 1 week abstainment from those sites, and it just made me feel even more insecure... I guess that I'll give up the sites and this whole pointless disease when I'm ready... but will I ever be ready?

Jamie said...

ok everyone! I've decided to stop being a pro-ana blogger! I need to stop participating in those detrimental sites because they are definitely not doing me any good...
so I'm going to try my hardest to abstain from these sites as much as possible! -I really need to take care of my health right now... so... yeah... haha! Those sites are just so ridiculous -and I don't need to be a part of them. They are just making me sicker and I can't afford to get any sicker... nope!

Jeanette said...

I think what makes these sites so "comfortable" is that there is a sense of support....the same sense one can receive from a pro-recovery site. There is a feeling of "I am not alone in this battle." There is someone else who thinks like me and feels the way I do. There is someone that is torn between recovery and staying sick. I thinks it just helps with the feelings of isolation that are so common among people with eating disorders. I have been to those sites and there is a comfort among the talk there because you don't feel so alone in the battle.

Also one thing that is different about a pro-ana site is there is not as much "complaining" for lack of a better word. When you go to a lot of pro-recovery websites there is a lot of complaining about how miserable life is and how recovery stinks. That gets depressing after awhile. One thing about pro-ana sites....is that often times people are not complaining as much on them. Just an observation...

Thanks

Jeanette

Anonymous said...

Hi everyone!

Jamie - I am thrilled to hear of your choice to stay off the pro ana sites....good for you! This is a powerful step in getting away from the diseased thinking of eating disorders! I hope that you will blog as much as you like here and maybe find a more positive support system here, that truly encourages your health and well being....I know the blog is slow to get going, but it will get busier as more people hear about it....so you can be an instrumental blog member in getting the voice of recovery out there by continuing to blog here! I enjoy reading your posts so much, you are very intelligent and insightful!

Jeanette-
thanks for posting too! I appreciate your contribution to the blog...and hope you will continue to share your valuable experience here....having you at the group last night was great....I am so glad to have you with us....I believe in you and admire your strength and perserverence through all you have endured.....a brighter future lies ahead for you......
Jacquelyn

Jeanette said...

Hey Jamie...I also support you staying off those sites and blogging here. I will write you back. I sit at a computer all day and so have plenty of time to chat with you online. Plus you can add me to your buddy list on AIM and write me anytime. If I am away from my desk or busy I will let you know. But if you have the desire to get on those sites...write me instead. We can try and support each other through these difficult times.

Jamie said...

Thank you, Jeanette! yeah, I will definitely add you to my budy list and we can help support each other through all these hard times. Thank you so much for your support! You can email me or IM me anytime! I also really enjoyed having you last night at group -you fit right in with all of us!
Take Care!

Anonymous said...

these sites are discusting i am 13 years old and i was looking for research on anarexia for my friend who has been absorbed by these sites.. these sites are destroying young girls lifes... it makes me sick...

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J said...

I think its really sickening 2 c young girls torturin their bodies 2 feel self satisfaction in thinness wen really they just look disgusting. I am 8 and half stone, 5'6 and 21 years old. I eat well and exercise regularly and am very happy wiv both my life and my looks. It's not ur weight that makes u happy, it's the way u look at urself and u guys just seem 2 look at urseoves wiv h8. Get a life and c that theres more 2 it then the self obsessed starvation that controlls u!

Sabbath said...

you all think it's sickening the way pro-EDs talk and what they believe but i'm pro-ed and when i first started visiting these websites, i thought i was probably one of the few that had an emotional tie to what they were doing. i thought most of the girls were just 10's trying to be 11 but it seems like alot of them have gone through alot of shit that put them in the emotional state their in today. One girl tole me that all her life she had been abused and raped and molested and told how ugly and stupid and useless she was. and now that she's like 20y/o the only member of her family she still sees is her father and he only comes to visit her to take her money and rape her. so the next time you go ranting and ravingon one of our discussion forums and making us feel worse, you should think that maybe people like you who are quick to criticize are the ones who put us here in the first place.

Anonymous said...

Believe it or not there are many reasons why people have eating disorders. It isn't the fact that there are websites posting these types of things or anything of the sort. It's actually underlying problems which cause people to become amune to this type of disorder. Whoever goes to these websites more then likely had the problem before going to them. If they go to them it's because they want to feel support. I know that many people disagree with me and it's perfectly understandable. But everyone should also understand where I am coming from. Eating disorders are not caused overnight and if your child develops an eating disorder it is because of pressures in their everyday lives.

PinkMapo said...

I've got a big eating disorder, but I'm a sensible person: I won't ever write on a blog anything that could push another girl into my sickness (is it the right word? I hope so... I'm not an English speaker, I'm Italian and I live there).
Those who make pro-ana sites, who adore ana, who call it ANA and love "her"... those people are seriously ill.
That's it.

Anonymous said...

I run a post-proana site to give people a place for community and support but without the negative self-intentions.

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